CHASTITY,
MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE. Marriage means to take a companion in life who will keep one another together in weal or woe during the earthly sojourn, and both of them meet the Lord. One duty way be of begetting children for which the scriptures lay down that this power should be used for begetting the children and rest from any such communion during the conception period and also thereafter the child is taking milk of the mother. In this way, the child, the mother and the father will all be healthy. Most of the diseases the people are suffering, will be eliminated. The Saints say that if the children are to be given birth, let them become either Saints, a donor to all poor and the service of the needy or being valiant ones who can protect the forlorn and the weak. The
Masters do lead an ideal married life and when they take up such a role, they
adopt such a course. So, married life is no bar to spirituality if led in
accordance with the scriptures. The partners in life are advised in their best
spiritual interests to observe chastity by leading a moderate life by mutual
cooperation. The check marks on the diary forms are essential for the people
seeking improvement gradually. One learns by self-introspection and careful
living. The dear ones are not forbidden to marry or have homes. But, they
should have ideal family life
flavoured with the divine grace of the Master. The
young before marriage, should be asked to lead a chaste life, as chastity is
life and sexuality is death. A lamp burns splendidly when it has oil within,
but if all the oil is leaked
away, how can there be light? A life of self-restraint goes to make body and
brain strong. Similarly,
education cannot be ruled out as it helps one to develop inner faculties for
having a right approach to life's problem. Learning
is a garland of flowers round the neck of a practical man; he will explain many
things from the vocabulary at his command. A man of learning without a
practical life, is like a beast of burden, who has loads of books over the
head. Bookish knowledge is all a wilderness and gives no way out. A learned man
revels in the pudding and gives it to others but is unaware of the taste
thereof. An unlearned man with a practical life does enjoy the taste of the
pudding and gives examples from the daily, with the vocabulary at his own
command. Both the learned and the unlearned have to tread the same way of
withdrawing from outside and rise above body~consciousness to see the Light of
God and become the conscious co-worker of the Divine Plan. An
impersonal deviated approach or slight relaxation in the observance of ethical
code of morality in accordance with the sacred tenets of the Holy Path is
likely to cause harm. Normal association and company breeds attachment. But when
this is flavoured with divine fragrance and relished in the Name of the Master,
this is bound to have much deeper impact. Opposite sex has much strong
hold amongst one another when the
charm and attraction involved is too much to be resisted. This results in
gradual infatuation and bondage. A slight slip can cause much of havoc when the dear ones are
hurled down in the abysmal of sensual gratification. Divine love and sex are
quite opposing poles. Sex is not only sinful, but a serious impediment on the
Holy Path. It is by long cultivation when one can expect some degree of success
in living a clean chaste life. This aspect of life should please be kept in view by the senior members of
Satsang when they can guide the 'young buds' in their larger interests of
spiritual progress. I
have noted about your lovely children...the raising of children is a virtuous
duty. The young ones imitate their parents, who should reflect peace, harmony
and sobriety by leading a
disciplined life full of spiritual beatitude. The assertive attitude of dear
______ shows the greatness of his soul. Self assertion is the innate attribute
of soul which is all divine in miniature scale. This kind sentiment is mostly
predominant in promising personalities who inherit congenial environments most
helpful for their spiritual progress. You need not worry over his learning late about dressing
or talking. It is the inner maturity which is well defined and controlled by
nature. So far his demands are concerned these should be met with lovingly as
far as possible so far as these are legitimate and within the scope of his
raising. The young sentiments should not in any way be injured. It is the
unbounded love of the parents for the children which make them bold, brave and
adventurous in their lives. You must be an affectionate and bravely stern
mother so far as your love and discipline is concerned towards your children.
Your good action of sitting with them regularly for listening to the sound
current is appreciated, which will be helpful for their spiritual growth.
Please convey my love to them. Mother's
affection for the child is innate and should not be misconstrued as unchaste.
Your recurring desire to hug her is a natural human instinct. You should know
that mother's love is an inner impulse and goes a long way in the healthy
breeding of child. Every soul coming to this world relishes such loving care
and affection which creates an inner sense of bravery and boldness. Your sacred
instincts are injected in the child which will enable him to grow gradually and
the child will come out a healthy stalwart with the grace of the Master. .....you
may please try to lavish the things for her which she is prone to steal. You
will find that when everything is procured for her, the tendency to obtain them
by stealing will be overcome in due course. Simultaneously you can ingrain in
her mind that anything and everything she is desirous of having will be
provided for her. I hope she will improve with the grace of the Master. The
screaming in terror of dear ___ during sleep may be rid of by resorting to
Simran of charged names. Besides you may look up to his digestion if he gets
good evacuation, as sometimes the stomach troubles lead to such like
terrorizing dreams... Marriage
is a sacrament. It is the selecting of a companion for life to stand by in weal
or woe. It is a sacred institution against social vice and sin. It fills the
gap. It is not a contract but a holy alliance under the divine Will when two
souls are brought together for attaining the highest object of spiritual
perfection. Sex impulse is a sacred instinct meant for procreation and it can
be transmuted carefully by living a life full of moderation. The serene love
between the partners of life starts from flesh and dissolves in the souls. It
is an attachment for the achievement of some higher goal of life and ultimate
liberation from the Wheel. It is rather a life full of spiritual beatitude and
dedication, serving as a sure sheet anchor against the injustices of
society. I am
glad to find that you married and your family affairs are improved with the
grace of the Master. You are advised to be careful about your physical health
for which you should seek casual
medical check up. Your
memory is quite fresh with me and I recall dear ____ with her glowing innocent
eyes, sparkling with spiritual glow.....(a child). It
is so good that dear (child) is walking with the grace of the Master. She is
very dear and lovely soul. Her smiling eyes are still fresh with me. Please
convey my love to her and dear ____________. The
fake allurements of sensual gratification usually end in frustration. Carnal
desires are seldom satiated by indulgence. Spiritual discipline and
renunciation of stumbling
impediments by careful consideration, preceded by repentance, is helpful for
spiritual progress. Infatuation breeds indulgence, whereas abstinence and
renunciation bring in serenity and sobriety. You should know it for certain
that mind is a very useful servant but a very bad master. It is the good grace
of the Master that child disciple is reminded by the gracious Master Power working overhead to follow the right
course and those who abide by His instructions are blessed with success in
evading the temptations, and this monkey mind cooperates with them for their spiritual progress.
Contrarily, who fall a prey to the allurements and unheed the divine counsel
are hurled down into the abysmal of degradation, and the same mind runs wild in
that direction. So you understand
the basic necessity of following the sacred impulse from the gracious Master
Power in entertaining sublime thoughts.
'Penny
wise pound foolish' is a useful adage. One should keep a strict vigil over the
thoughts which usually creep in surreptitiously and cause disturbance in
passions flaring up at the slightest provocation. Spiritual discipline demands
austere living with a higher aim in view, and working wholeheartedly for its
accomplishment. |