CHASTITY, MARRIAGE AND FAMILY Try to realize that God has concern for all His children and that He is Himself looking after all the dear ones in your family. Try not to worry about them, and the more you are devoted to your meditations, the more help you will be to all of them. I
appreciate your kind sentiments for the welfare of your brothers and sisters.
You may please note that the gracious Master Power extends feasible help and
protection for the near relations and friends of the dear ones who are accepted
and put on the holy Path. You may convey my love to them and encourage them to
repose their hopes in the gracious Master Power working overhead. I am
sorry to find that you were robbed and are unhappy over your family conditions.
As mentioned to you in my last letter of November 11, please try to stay aloof
from the discord and strife that your family has amongst themselves. You may pray for them and
their sickness without letting them disturb your peace of mind, which is not
conducive to good meditations. The gracious Master Power extends feasible help
to the near and dear ones of a
devoted disciple. I
appreciate your kind sentiments for your family whom you wish all good luck.
Kind hearts are invariably blessed with divine grace. Please
read carefully the booklet 'Seven Paths to Perfection' for helping you to weed
out all imperfections and replacing them with ennobling virtues. Lustful dreams
resulting in loss of semen can be overcome by having self restraint in chastity
of thought throughout the day. Thoughts precede the actions and as such the
thought pattern of the initiate should be watched. Also, you should say some
prayer before retiring and sweetly keep repeating the sacred charged names,
and remembering the Master. If
you sleep in this relaxed mood, no further disturbance will overcome you in
this way, with His grace and protection. Loss
of vital fluid in sleep state can be avoided by having a light meal in the
evening and also watching the thought patterns during the day and evening.
Thoughts create impressions in the mind, which seek release in sleep when the attention slips down into the body.
These should be recorded on the diary forms. If you are not sensually affected
by looking into your wife's eyes, then there is no objection to it. It
is good that dear (wife) is now living with you at _____ , and that you are able to be of help and
encouragement to each other on the Path Godwards. You are not to discuss
together your inner experiences, which is entirely a matter between you and the Master. I
note the desire of you and your wife to have a baby. The spiritual conduct of
the parents do attract a similar soul to them. My blessings are with you. You
state that you are unemployed at present, and are feeling lost and lonely. It
would be better for you to return to dear (husband) at ______ and strive to
prove him a good wife. It is due to the evolution of past karma that persons
with varying temperaments are brought together in the sacred bonds of holy
matrimony for the liquidation of their give and take. All efforts should be
made for cementing the relationship. You should try and be more obedient
and serviceable to your husband.
Loving devotion and respect for each other's sentiments will bring in more of
right understanding and harmony. You are both dear to me and I wish for you
both to be happy together and help each other to know God and to fulfill the highest aim of man's life.
My blessings are with you. You
may rest assured that the friends and relations of the initiates do receive
help from the gracious Master. I am
glad for your dear mother who has decided to be initiated into the mysteries of the beyond. Please convey my love
to her and encourage her to write to me all about her welfare. Chastity
is life and sexuality is death. While I sympathize with you in your present
situation with your husband, you should continue to meet with your obligations
in as detached a manner as is possible - you should inform him on your own
behalf in a loving manner that the vital fluid which he loses each time is
extremely harmful not only for his spiritual and mental health, but also to his
physical health. If, however, he cannot stop all at once, he should in his
own interests try and practice more
self restraint. With your loving help and cooperation, he will be successful in
this and to some extent, safeguard his physical health. Your advice to make use
of the _____ was appropriate. The
body is the temple of God and should be made a fitting instrument to
manifest the God in man and not be degraded to the practice of sensual
pleasures. Unfortunately,
very few people have the right understanding as to the importance of
maintaining the chastity of life. It is because man is not chaste that he is
under the domination of other vices such as anger, greed and attachment. If he
were to control his sensual appetite, the other vices would gradually drop
away. So chastity is the key not only to the spiritual life but also to success
in every other field of endeavour. The pity it is that the very people who
could help their fellow men, such as doctors and the clergy, are themselves in
the grip of sexuality and are hardly
likely to recommend the practice of that which they themselves are a prey to.
To help your husband gain the right understanding of the need to lead a chaste
life, you should request him to read the English version of a Satsang that I
have entitled "Chastity and Forgiveness" which may be found in the
January, 1968 issue of Sat Sandesh magazine. Having gained this right
understanding, he could talk in a
fatherly way to your son, so that they may have the opportunity at their early
age to realize how important it is to maintain the chastity of life and the benefits
that can accrue from retaining the vital fluid in the body. I am
glad that one of your sons has taken an interest in the teachings of the Master
and is studying the sacred books. You nay encourage them all to study the
sacred books by holding Satsang in your home, if it meets with your husband's
approval. Whenever the boys are home from college on vacation, they may perhaps
like to read from the Master's books at the Satsang meetings. In this way, your
lady friends may also like to join you and grasp more of the theoretical side of the teachings, which
precedes practice. A short meditation period can be included before or after
the Satsang and all can enjoy the divine radiation from the charged atmosphere.
My love and blessings are always with you. Please convey my love to your
husband, sons, daughter and lady friends. I shall be glad to hear from them at any time. You
should continue to meet with your obligations towards your husband in as
detached a manner as is possible. The relationship between husband and wife is
sacred and nothing should be allowed to come in between. Your loving
patience and cooperation will
help him to awaken to the higher expression of life in due course. My best
wishes are with him. You
should exhibit more of respect, patience and loving tolerance for your husband
as God has united you both in marriage, which is a sacrament. You
should consider yourself as a trustee for your child and love him with a more
detached and serene manner. As also please refer to my latest message since
released on the Birth Anniversary of my Master. When
you feel overtaken with judgment of your mother, you should try to search about
your own self. You will overcome this
failure. I am
sorry for your family affairs when your husband does not cooperate with you. It
is due to the evolution of some past Karma that persons with varying
temperaments are blended together in the bonds of matrimony for the liquidation of their Karma. You are
advised to be more calm, patient and tolerant in face of harshness. Such like
passing phases of trials and tribulations come up as a reaction of past Karma
and as such should be treated in the like manner. You may consult dear _____ in
this behalf and act accordingly. My love and blessings are with you. I
appreciate the selfless help which dear _____ and _____ have given you in
solving your marriage problems. In fact the disciples of the Master should be
ever prepared to help fellow seekers after Truth in all their affairs. You
may nurse your son as long as you consider it necessary. I am
sorry to learn that your husband has gone back on the promise he made at the
time or your reunion that he would not make dear ______ eat flesh. You have
acted rightly in politely refusing to feed your son on eggs. Please follow the
path of righteousness and resign yourself to the Supreme Will in all humility.
My best wishes are with you. You
should be more obedient and serviceable to your husband which will enable you to win him. Love and
humility surmounts all troubles whatsoever. Please convey my love to him. I
appreciate your loving and dutiful attitude towards your dear husband. An
attitude of serene detachment from within, yet attending to one's legitimate
duties carefully, considering oneself to be an obedient servant and trustee of
the Master is the central them of the sacred teachings of the Master. Your
steadfastness and obedience will help to win him round to you in due course of
time, with the grace of the Master. You
need not bother about your husband but try to serve him with more of devotion
which shall enable you to win him to your side in due course. Please convey my
love to him. Marriage
is a sacrament and means the selecting of a companion for life to stand by in
weal or woe. If you and dear ______ have decided to enter into matrimony and
you can afford to do so, there is no objection in your marrying. Married life
is no bar to spirituality if you live according to the scriptures. You should
try to come up to the required standard
of chastity by mutual understanding. As
regards your attitude towards your dear parents, you may please note that your
duty is to be humble, polite and sweet outwardly and at heart. Everybody is
free to choose his/her course of faith and action which is chiefly determined
by past karmic evolution. You should
try to exhibit and inculcate more of loving humility which will be more
effective to prove your greatness and that of the holy Path on which you have
been put. You do owe them some parental debt which can best be repaid by
service and loving devotion. Please convey my love to them. |